Monday, August 30, 2010


They're hitting me again.  Those feeling of being overwhelmed, ill-prepared, inadequate and not cutting it as a mother, head housekeeper, family teacher, friend, etc. and etc. that I am sure every mom (woman) goes through at some point or another.  There is always so much to do and I never seem to be caught up...

read 15 minutes a day to the kids
dental checkups and cleanings every six months
clean out the pantry...again
serve others/help others/think of others
go through seasonal clothes
teach children about manners/dangers/blessings
change the sheets on some sort of consistent schedule
volunteer for church and/or school
change out everyone's toothbrushes
clean out the garage
make a new chore chart...this time one that works
scrub the bathrooms where the boys inevitably missed their target
schedule play dates, park days, zoo trips and library trips
make time for soccer/baseball/softball games and practices
go over the kids' chores where they left a little residue
prepare breakfast, lunch and dinner
make sure the kids are flossing
prune, water and care for my bushes, trees and plants
spend time with friends and family
make time for driving to and helping with piano/band lessons
vitamins...remember to buy and distribute
don't forget to buy sandwich bags, Q-tips and something else random like Cream of Tartar
refill the soap dispensers in all the bathrooms
exercise and eat better
go on a date with my hubby
read the scriptures/good books/inspiring articles
write in my journal
tackle the soap scum and hard water residue that have turned into Fort Knox in the bathtub

It seems like I get up to date on immunizations and teeth cleanings then notice the closets look like multiple bombs went off in them, and that there is dust three feet thick on every visible surface.  Not to mention everyone has toe and fingernails worthy of the Guinness Book of World Records.

So after lots of thought, I finally realized I'm never gonna be caught up on everything all at once and it's okay.  But that doesn't stop me from getting discouraged every now and again, because the dining room chairs have a mosaic of crusted Life cereal, crumbs, rice and whoknowswhat glued to their surface, which by the way, how does milk + cereal = the strongest adhesive ever made?!  And how is it that when I sit in a chair... more times than not I stick to it... even though myself or one of the kids, wipe them down multiple times a week?

Anyway, somehow I guess we make it work and muddle through even though when all of the to-do's are written out it seems nigh unto impossible.   Because realistically there will never be a time that all at once the computer files, bathroom cupboards, junk drawer, craft closet, toys, and  unmatched socks will be gone through and organized, and that the baseboards will all be wiped down and that I will have spent quality time with each kid, made a fabulous dinner, color coded my closet and successfully eliminated all dust bunny traces from under my bed.  It comes down to trying to congratulate myself on the small bits of accomplishments, I suppose, like "Hallelujah I washed a batch of laundry today, made sure the kids did all their homework and that their beds were made!  And then because I felt EXTRA on-the-ball, I trimmed that bush in the front.  Man, I'm amazing!" ...otherwise I'd go stark raving mad...because motherhood is one heckuva crazy, demanding, exhausting, terrifying, wouldn't-have-it-any-other-way kinda ride.


And it is so worth it.


  1. Its so hard to remember. It really is all I've ever wanted to do and yet at times I feel like such a failure and ungrateful for these beautiful children I've been given. All those pictures made me a bit weepy. Seeing cute Dennis and his once chubby cheeks, and seeing Q and thinking of all you went through then. Sure love ya E. Thanks for the pep talk. :)

  2. Oh, Lou, darnitall! You are a MARVELOUS mother! I have wondered numerous times about how you do it all, because you DO do it all. You're an impressive wonder of the world in my humble opinion. -And we know that my opinion is the only one that REALLY counts anyways! ;)

    I have to say... I laughed right out loud when I read about how you sit dow more often than not and realize that you have stuck to that surface once you try to get up. I'm kind of suspecting that I know the ingredients to Gorilla Glue now! But whatever it's made of, it's magic!

  3. So, you're going through one of THOSE times huh? Thank goodness we can look back at the pictures, or even take two seconds and really see that we enjoy what we're doing, who we're doing it with, and what we really ARE accomplishing.

    You're a great mom. I've come to learn that more and more over the years.

    Sending hugs your way.

  4. Those are great pictures! And they helped me catch up on your early years of motherhood. You're just a natural.

  5. It's the MOMENTS -- I'm always striving for perfect too and sometimes it feels *so close* and other times nowhere in sight. LOL!

  6. Oh, I feel so much better after reading that. I've felt very "behind" since baby #4 arrived.

  7. I've been having lots of those feelings lately, too. It's a super important reminder on days like today when there is so much to do, but what should be on the top of my list is holding my baby. He needed me today.

  8. Amen Sister...I feel like this lots too! You know that. But seriously, nobody could tackle that list all the time. One day, one task at a time. I can't get too caught up in the details or I lose it! But look at all those sweet pictures, beautiful, kind kids and memories. It is worth it. FYI...I love your hair in the baseball pic with "C" made me want to CHOP mine!

  9. Really, such a great great post. You have a way of expressing yourself that reaches inside all of our hearts...our insecurities, frustrations and aspirations are all connected.

    Thanks for sharing!

  10. Great post! Reminds me of a movie I watched last night. This guy was asking another guy about being a parent and his response went something like this.... Hard, Hard, Hard, Hard, and than something awesome happens and than Hard, Hard, Hard, Hard and than something awesome happens.. about that time his kid brings him a piece of poop he found in the sandbox. So True, being a mom is definitely bitter "SWEET"

  11. You ARE amazing! The only thing that keeps me from being swallowed up by all the things I didn't do is remembering that I only get my kids for basically 18 years and my laundry is ALWAYS going to be stacked to the ceiling. There is always tomorrow to clean out the junk drawer or dust off the fans. Love, love, love the pictures....made me miss you guys!

  12. I love your way with words! Where are the pictures of the kids waterboarding (or is it skimboarding?)? Did you even get them? They are not your quality of pics for sure, but I would love to see your comments. We had some fun!! Love you! Give everyone a hug for me!


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